There are a lot of dating clichés. Some that are backed up with data. Like the one that says Asian American men are thought of and see themselves as one of the least desirable groups. To quote some recent articles: Are Asian Men Undateable? Why Won’t Western Women Date Chinese Men?
So I Skyped my friend Eric Tang. Chinese American. We also dated briefly. I wanted to know if this had ever affected him. I asked awkwardly, if me being white ever made him think he shouldn’t ask me.
He laughed and said, “You know, I’ve never been bold enough to take a risk that I’m not pretty confident about.”
Tang helps lead a tech startup and does a lot of improv theatre. He’s a pretty confident guy. But he also points out that when he was growing up in China, all the heroes on television looked like him — and that made a difference. It was nothing like the negative stereotypes in Hollywood that he and a lot of people cite as a big part of the problem.
I realized I needed to talk to an expert. This time, I went a bit farther than my personal address book.
John Cho is one of the few prominent Asian American male actors in Hollywood. You might recognize him from the Harold and Kumar movies or the recent Star Trek blockbusters.
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He says that when he was younger, “Girls would say, in an almost benevolent tone, that they just had zero attraction to Asian men. It wasn’t considered taboo to say something like that.”
Now, with all due journalistic objectivity here, John Cho is hot. In 2009, People Magazine voted him sexiest man alive. But in Hollywood, it’s still rare to see Asian men cast as confident, leading men. Hollywood hasn’t wanted to date them. And that impacts what America thinks of Asian men. And what Asian American men think of themselves.
"We believe what girls tell us, what the movies tell us — that we’re not supposed to be leaders, we’re not masculine and we’re weak, all those things,” Cho says. When makeup artists once referred to him as eye candy on a shoot, Cho says he had a hard time understanding that they were talking about him.
When he started out in Hollywood, his expectations were low. Rules were explicit about who could audition for what. On occasion, Cho says he’d ask about a certain part and hear back, “They’re not opening up casting. Which meant, they are not seeing non-white people.”
He broke in with comedy, playing a drunk kid at a party on “American Pie.” After that, he says he mostly stopped being typecast into “Asian” roles. But because he knows how powerful onscreen stereotypes can be, Cho will agonize over whether to take a certain role, worrying about how the part will be perceived by the general public, how Asian Americans might see it, and how a 12 year old version of himself would take it.
He says that even today, “there are certain Asian male friends that I call who are not in the business, and I say, ‘What do you think?’ But I go to them because I want to know how they would feel if they didn't know me and were to see me doing it.”
Last fall, Cho was cast as the lead in “Selfie,” a beloved but short-lived romantic TV comedy. He cared about the juicy role, not the race of his costar. But he knows that for a lot of Asian American men, it was a big deal that she was white. Cho says that former costars have even told him that after playing his love interests, they’ve found themselves with surprisingly large Asian male fan bases.
He says he told Karen Gillan, his co-star on Selfie, “Prepare for high-fives from Asian men for the rest of your life.” Laughing, he adds “we are very grateful.”
Today, when it comes to young Asian stars, Cho now has some company. There’s Steven Yeun, who plays a zombie-slaying heartthrob on “The Walking Dead." The new sitcom “Fresh off the Boat” also stars an Asian American family. There’s talk about whether a real shift is underway in Hollywood for Asian Americans and, specifically, for Asian American men.
“The subtext of all the discussion is we’re making it right, aren’t we? Please say that we’re making it right. And it’s a really great impulse in American society. We are obsessed with wanting to fix this race problem. And we’re stumbling. We’re all thumbs about it,” Cho says.
He says the fact that people in the US care and want to be more egalitarian is important. But he points out that there’s a long way to go if you just look at who we see on movie posters.
“I can’t say that it has become right or that the playing field is equal. Is it moving in the right direction? I believe it is,” he says.
For now, Cho just wants to continue doing roles that challenge him, are artistically fulfilling, fun, and ones that he’s never seen portrayed with a face like his. But although he cares about the “activism,” he says ultimately, as an actor that can't be your primary motivation.
To explain what he means more concretely, he says, “for instance, the Asian American community, they would go nuts if I was one of the X-Men or something, because it’s prominent. But it’s not necessarily artistically fulfilling.”
Cho pauses to reconsider, laughs, and then says, actually, “I would take that gig in a heartbeat. “
A sexy Asian superhero? I can get behind that. And Marvel, Sony: I think the rest of the US could, too.
Cast these actors
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Johnny Trí Nguyễn
If Hollywood is looking to cast a good-looking, muscular Asian American action hero, Johnny Trí Nguyễn is kind of a no-brainer. Already a star in Vietnam, the Vietnamese American actor got his start working as a stuntman in films like Spiderman 2 and Jarhead. Even Bollywood has come knocking.