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Marco Werman: Women in Saudi Arabia could use more respect when it comes to driving. Women are forbidden from getting behind the wheel there. Just last month, a woman tried to drive from the United Arab Emirates into Saudi Arabia and she was promptly arrested. Now, Saudi Arabia may be the only country where women can't drive, but it happens in other places, too. Even here in the US. Frimet Goldberger tells her story.
Frimet Goldberger: I was twenty-three years old when I first started to drive. It's not that I was afraid to; I wasn't allowed because I'm a woman. I grew up in a small, densely populated village in upstate New York called Kiryas Joel. And in Kiryas Joel, woman donâ€™t drive. Itâ€™s a village of ultra-Orthodox Hasidic Jews. In my hometown, women can't be jailed for driving like they can in Saudi Arabia. But driving is still forbidden. A woman who drives would risk being shunned, and her children expelled from the private Hasidic school. She could be excommunicated from the community. Growing up, it never dawned on me that driving was a possibility. No woman in my family or neighborhood ever did. We were taught that our tznius, our modesty, would be at stake. But I think thereâ€™s something else. For Hasidic women, being banned from the wheel means being tied to your husband and to your community. Driving gives you the keys to freedom and independence. My husband and I eventually left the community to explore a less restrictive Jewish lifestyle, and I got my driverâ€™s license. When my father heard, he said to my mother, â€œShe will kill herself and her children.â€ I wasnâ€™t thinking about this when I made my first long-distance drive to New York City with two female friends from Kiryas Joel. I borrowed a GPS and got on the road with my old, tan Buick. It was dark when we started to head back; not ideal for a new, timid driver. I missed one exit, then the next, waiting for the distressed GPS to reroute. I was wiping beads of sweat off my forehead while my friends chatted in the backseat. Suddenly, without warning, cars started coming at me in the opposite direction. I had steered into oncoming traffic. I froze. I saw my father pointing an accusatory finger at me. I saw death. Five minutes later, after I honked and blinked my headlights furiously, the cars came to a standstill to allow me to back out of the mess. My driving has been relatively uneventful since. A few fender-benders here and there, but my children and I are still alive and well. I still live in Rockland County in New York, not too far from the village where I grew up. But if the mileage on my car is proof of anything, it's that I've traveled far from where I used to be.