French Prime Minister announces France will legalize gay marriage by 2013

Fri, 06 Jul 2012 08:00:00 -0500

French Prime Minister Jean-Marc Ayrault confirmed that France will legalize marriage and adoption for gay couples by 2013, following through on an election promise made by President Francois Hollande.

Franz M.

Thu, 12 Jul 2012 07:35:10 -0500

I think one has to state very clearly, that if same-sex couples were to be given the right to marry, it would be wrong to include the right to adopt unrelated children. Also I believe support via IVF should remain restricted to heterosexual couples. This sounds harsh, but is easily explained with simple logic. Basically it’s all about fundamental interests of children, respect for their dignity and rights - which should, of course, always have the highest priority in society.

Same-sex couples would intentionally be depriving adopted (unrelated) children of beautifuly loving and defining relationships with both a woman (mother) and a man (father). Children of 0-4 are (apart from love) primarily interested in what their senses perceive directly. That is diverse sounds (acoustic), colours / forms / movement patterns (visual), tactile sense, to a lesser degree sense of smell and taste. At this age there is no mental activity – its about enjoying “input” directly, discovering the basics of the world via senses, not thought or concept. And the world of children of this age consists primarily of their parents, because they prefer them to everything and everybody else. Perception of the parents is prefered over all other perceptions. What ever is learnt directly from them is learnt best.

Its important to know that children recognize the difference between feminin and masculine very well from about 6 months of age. They evidently love the difference between their mum and dad and they love to interact with both as different expressions of the relationship with a parent.

The gender specific characteristics of the parents constitute the most important source of perception for a young child – simply because these are what he percieves naturally and by necessity. Gender-specific differences between mum and dad are the 1. the first, 2. the most intensly experienced, 3. the most important categorie of diversity a child of 0 – 4 can experience. And diversity is fundamentaly important: We hang nice pictures or multi-coulored objects over the cot and try to stimulate the childs senses – let him experience all sorts of diversity through his senses, but nothing is more important and interesting and defining for a child than what he percieves directly from his parents.

Watch how much a toddler enjoys first listening to his mother sing to him then the male voice of his father sing. Its excactly this kind of experience of diversity directly from his parents which makes his day.

Same-sex parents cannot offer their children this specific advantage of diversity. That’s a fact.

Adults, whether homosexual or straight, rightly take it for granted that they can have diverse relationships (friends, partner, family relations etc.) with both male and female persons as part of their freedom and children deserve the same freedom. Only if we strive to let all children grow up with a loving father and mother, will we not be responsible for depriving them of the freedom of experiencing relationship diversity in their youngest years from birth onwards regarding the most natural and necessary relationship children can have – namely that with a parent, who is nurturer, role model and friend all in one. I believe this is a matter of morality and basic human rights of children.

Try this simple experiment:

Make sure you only listen to music with male vocals. No Whitney, Morissette, Lennox, Bush and co.. Only Clapton, Presley, Daltry and co.

For two weeks. Whether radio, mp3, hifi or live – no female singing.

You will probably crave for the tender voice of a female singer after 2 weeks – simply because its acoustically different. And thats just acoustics and if you cut out female spoken word as well the deprivation would be even more apparent. Human beings love to and need to interact with and perceive both males and females on various levels of perception regularly and freely as they desire. This applies especially to very young children. Same-sex parents cannot offer this fundamental form of diversity for these children, and in my opinion it would be wrong to intentionally deprive them of it.

I wrote a very similar comment on nomblog.com not long ago. Of course this discussion also reoccurs regularly in european countries, but these simple arguments, which I have stated here, and I believe they are compelling, are actually stated suprisingly rarely, so I thought I would express them here. So its not marraige (and attaining certain related rights) as such which should be the great cause of concern – its specifically concerning the right to adopt or have support via IVF (or surrogacy) where society has to stand up for the rights and dignity of children.

I know there are scientific studies which aparently show that children do well in same-sex househoulds (some say the results are questionable) . But this is not only about psychological assesment – the main goal of life is surely not to achieve good results in a psychological test! This is in my opinion very much about enjoyment, diversity, freedom and rights – for the children.

Rory

Tue, 24 Jul 2012 18:33:41 -0500

Oh, you just made me laugh! ... I'm straight BTW. Were you on crack when you came up with that experiment? Children need love period, from wherever it comes. If we follow your ridiculous course of logic, single mothers should have their babies removed. You're homophobic. Thanks for the laugh though!

Chuck Knight

Thu, 26 Jul 2012 10:27:56 -0500

Franz, I have a close friend who was adopted and raised by 2 males (fathers). I raised by only my father. I have yet to see any major differences between me, him and my other close friends, OR anyone for that matter. Aside from your experiment, what you wrote is white noise to me. As for your genius experiment; I've once spent about a month in my dorm listening to nothing but Pantera as I struggled to study for exams and finish term papers. I distinctly remember having no such a craving. You my friend haven't a single clue what you are writing about.

john nelson

Tue, 27 Nov 2012 23:52:52 -0600

well, when it comes to gay marriages, i think it should be legalize because we can't blame to them, the are bounded to their thinking, and we should understand their feeling and feel pity for them.

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French Prime Minister announces France will legalize gay marriage by 2013

Franz M.

Rory

Chuck Knight

john nelson